Life — August 15, 1901 — page 8: what you’re looking at

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Rules for a Young Married Man. KEEP up the Illusion. Don’t settle down too obviously to married life. Be as eager to please her as you were before marriage. Aim to preserve the charm of the honey- moon, Don't tell her she is illogical. She probably is, but she mustn't know it. Don't be too reminiscent of the duys » you knew her. From the battles h you slew the Dragon she may reason to the struggles where you fell by the wayside. Remember that the new life, which to you is merely an episode, is to her a complete revolution of thought and habit—an undiscovered country. Make lowances for her, The readjustment ‘ye her fairly, so that she will not ve you, Keep up the Ilusion. Tell her occasionally that you love her. She knows it, but she likes to hear it. She can't always take it for granted. Start in the you want to con- tinue. Particularly in affairs of the purse, Never humiliate her by making her ask for money. Have a definite understanding at first. Money brings the discord that causes most family bells to jangle out of tune. Be thoughtful in little things. A single rose may perfume a whole day. Never remark casually that there are two standards, one for a man and another for a woman, Women some- times put two and two together with surprising accuracy. Remember her Woman's Instinct, Be as polite to her mother as in you lies, without encouraging her to live with you. It pays in the end. Give advice when you are asked for it, and not before. The unaided work- ing out of her life problems may be well-nigh homicidal in the process, but the results will justify your forbearance. Keep up the Illusion. Tell her your sorrows as well as your joys. Twocan bear trouble better than one. She is your wife, not your sister, and she loves you. You owe it to her. She may develop new power and grace with the knowledge. Learn to bear with her occasional ted Men must work and women must weep. Never give her power over you by alle ig her to see that you are jealous. This is fatal. Assume indifference if you have it not. Don’t embarrass her by adverse criticism of any kind before people. Make it a curtain lecture if it must be. Don't forget to kiss her good-by. Train her to be prepared for emer- gencies if she isn't that kind. Bring your friends home to dinner unex- pectedly. Smoke in the house if you want to, and bring the dogs in, She knew these things beforo she married you. Why sacrifice your innocent pleasures ? Prove to her that marriage seldom reforms. Make her feel that she is the only woman you have ever loved. This is very important. Don’t tease her and then refuse to be teased yourself. Don't talk busi- ness to her after she has been shop- ping all day. She has troubles of her own, Treat her like a comrade and a friend, but never forget that she is, aboveall,awoman, who needs your utmost sympathy and protection. Keep up the D- lusion. Don't be an ostrich. Cover your tracks as well as your head. Ask her advice occasionally and take it sometimes on principle. It may be worth taking. Never protest. Your zeal may o'er- leap itself and fall on the other side, if you do. Maintain a dignified and thoughtful silence. Don’t make the mistake of providing food, lodging and pin money for her poor relatives. How did they manage before you were married? Cultivate your speaking voice. A few tender words aptly uttered in thrilling tones will calm her most violent feel- ings. Few women are proof against a properly-managed voice. If you can’t be frank, be as frank as you can. Don't think she is flirting outra- geously, when she is merely trying to be nice to your best friends to please you. Don't tell her ull the risqué stories you know. Reserve some of the worst and leave hera few sensibilities. If you hurt her feelings—and you will—tell her you are sorry. An ounce of true repentance will banish many pounds of hurt. Don't lose your temper when she does. Choose a more opportune mo- ment. Some one must pilot the ship. Remember that if you love each other, you can do with her as you will. Above all, keep up the Illusion—if you can. It is worth while. Carolyn Shipman. Summer. OME, Chloé —Come! my pretty maid, And shan the summ 'y burning heat ; We'll walk within the strip of shade Which blesses half one side the street. The hydrant’s bubbling, murmurous flow Runs rippling o'er stones, the thirsty And swarthy merchants singing 03 “Straw-bare!” they call in honeyed tones. Comewhere thecrystal fountains play, Crushed fruit shall fill you with delight, And car rides cool. Roof gardens, gay, Which sparkle high upon the night ; Come where soft breezes blow, nor tan, As ceaseless purrs the motor fan. CES WwW