Under Lock and Key; or, Marion Marlowe's Last Role — page 30: what you’re looking at

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__ I married my last husband three years ago, and J have mever seen a happy moment since. He is one ef the most disagreeable men you ever saw, and —£- ean hardiy endure him. I have two little boys, and the only comfort I have is with them. I really hate the man. Please tell me what to do. I am not able to go out and work hard. He manages to keep _us from st and that is about all. Mrs, M. B. Denver, Colo. - You have not told us why you hate your hus band, excepting that you say he is disagreeable. Do you feel sure that the fault is all on his side? Our advice to you would be to think seriously over this matter and try to find out if you have been lack- ing in any way in your duty toward him. Then have a plain, frank talk with him, telling him how — hard he is making it for, you to get along with him, and that if there is no change in his manner, you will be forced ‘io leave him. If you follow this ad- vice and he still fails to treat you kindly, write us age m, and we will tell you what to do. Thinking that you will be able to help me out of a difficulty, I take the liberty of asking your epinion on this subject. About seven months ago » i ie aequaint with a young man who has since won my affections, and whom I have met several times. When I am with him he appears to think a great deal of me, but of late I do not see him very often. When I write him he does not an- wer, and when I see him (two or three weeks later) and ask an explanation he always says he has been put of the city and has just returned. Please tell me how I can be sure of his affection, as I do not want to give him up. MURIEL V. ~ Providence, R. 1. _ This young man does not value your affection very highly or he would show you more consideration. From what you write us he appears to be neg- lectful and not much interested in you. It would be folly to try and win the affection of a man like this. You_would only waste your time and your “love. Try and get over your attachment for him, since he is unworthy of it. I am a girl seventeen years of age, and am Wealthy, but unhappy, as I have a stepmother who Objects to me keeping compary with the kind of boys I prefer. The other night ] went to an old-fashioned country hoe down with one of them. When I re- turned she gave me a very hard whipping and says that I must quit running around with those boys or leave home never to return again. Now IL wish your advice in this matter, whether you would leave home or keep company with boys that bear a better name a aa 7g I have been going with. Pussy. “ o, Ill. Your stepmother seems to be a very practical woman and you would do well to follow her advice nd avoid more whippings. It seems incredible that a girl of your age should have to be whipped into g00d company. Let us hear from you again, Pussy, after you have taken your stepmother’s advice. ty . I am of eighteen and am ; v rith a married 1 events + =“ aa oi lane Dee oe ine pe arry her. hat would you ag Mt. Vernen, O. We would advise you to break off your acquaint- nee with this woma@# at once. You have no right he affection of another man’s wife, and if she & woman worthy of your respect, she would have allowed you to cultivate any tender feeling for her. It will be time enough for you to think Warriage when you are able to support a wife ) when that time comes, we hope that you will Rot choose a woman who is already the wife of mother man, but that your desires will be more one: able than they appear to be at present ae x I have been reading ‘“My Queen” every week for ome time. Your letter department seemed very *00lish at first, but now I have great respect for any nme who can handle other peopte’s troubles as well $ you do. IT am a voung man of twenty. I eannot that I am good-looking or that I know more * = MY QUEEN. 27 than my parents. I have always been sent to Betioo!, but have a fair education and have stop schoo and gone into a business that pays me about forty dollars a month. [ have never gone with girls much because I took the advice of older people, and now the girls seem to think that I care nothing for them and treat me as they would a married man. Well, T won’t push meoe in! I treat all girls as superior beings, and doubt if I am good enough for them. On making new acquaintances I always wait for the girl to take the lead in conversation, with the result that I seldom ever converse. I have been the play- mate from childho of a girl two years older than myself. I find this old friendship is creating a love, We neither of us care much for society, but desire to stay at home. My parents know of all this and have no objections, except that she is older than myself and net of a very strong constitution. Please tell me what you think of my state of affairs and how L should proceed. I must adé a word of praise for *“‘My Queen.’’ I predict a great future for it. Maryville, Mo. . W. Rw It is usually wisest for a man to choose a wife younger than himself, but the slight difference im your ages is not a very serious objection. We would advise you to wait a few years until your business brings you in a larger income and you have some- thing laid by for the inevitable “rainy day’ before you enter into any engagement. You will probably suceeed better in women’s society if you are more self-reliant and not so over-willing to ‘‘take a back seat.” Women do not admire retiring and diffident meni. Iam, a young girl of sixteen and enjoy reading ‘‘M Queen.’’ My father died when Ll was two years old, and my mother has never been married since. My mother objects to me going with young men, and she does not even let me go to parties nor with my girl friends and insists on my going to sehool. When I gO any place my mother goes along. Do you advise me to let all parties, dances, theatres and young men alone? JULIA. Kearney, Neb. We think you are too young to think of going out much, and your mother is wise to discourage your going with young men. A girl of your age will do much better to spend her time with her books, pre- paring herself for a useful life, than if she allows her. head to become filled with thoughts of parties and beaux. I have all the troubles that afflict the just. — am a young girl, but eighteen years old, and think I am in love with two young men. I would like to ask you if one can realiy be in love with two people and love them each well enough to marry them, as I think I do. One of these young men [I admire be- cause he is so handsome, and [I think the atttac- tion with the other young man is his affectionate disposition. LOoLA-May. LincoIn, Ned. No one ean really be in leve with two people at the same time, and love them well enough to marry them. The only love that should cause marriage is the love that confin@s itself to one individual, ex- scluding all others. This is the only safe basis for married life. You probably like both of these young men in a friendly way, and your wisest course is to continue on a friendly basis and not be too anx- ious to consider whether you are in love, I have been marrted three months to a man who was a good man until he met another man, who taught him to drink musty ale, and since then he stays with this other man all the time and always says he can’t stop drinking. He never drank anv- thing before. Do you think it is musty ale or some- thing else that keeps him out, or shall If go and see the other man about it? I am great reader of “My Queen,”’ so thought I would confide in you. He is a good man, only he will drink musty ale. Buffalo, N. ¥ Mrs. T. B. We should imagine that a daily beverage of “mus- ty ale’? would be quite sufficient to cause a man to wander from his own fireside, or, rather, having “wandered,’”’ to consume it. We can understand his not wishing to go back; he is probably too much ashamed to wish to face you. How to win a man EGOMIIGIOOKS (SO)