A Lover's Quarrel, or Marion Marlowe's Deceitful Friend — page 30: what you’re looking at

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~@ he left me he asked me to -.. VW ie * NOTE.—This department is a special feature of tnis pub- lication, and it will be ghia ae we fee] sure, by all our readers. It is conducted by Miss Shirley, whose remark- able ability to answer all questions, no matter how delicate the import, is well known. Readers of ‘My QUEEN”’ need not hesitate to write her on any subject. Miss Shirley will have their interests at heart and will never refuse her as- sistance or sympathy. As all letters are answered only through the columns of ‘My QUEEN,” it is unnecessary to enclose stamps. , : So many letters are being received by Miss Shirley re- quiring answers in this department that we shall have to ask our correspondents to mit their letters to 200 words, in order that all may be answered. STREET & SMITH. I am a young girl of nineteen and have been keep- ing company with a young man of twenty-two for about a year and a half and we have agreed to be married in two years. We love each other ore much, but mamma does not want me to go wit him. She will never consent, so what shall I do— give up my lover to please her or not? Seattle, Wash. ADMIRER OF MARION. You do not tell us why your mother objects to your fiance. If there is a good reason for her dis- approval we would advise you to take her advice, or at least wait until you have overcome her objec- tions befofe you marry. Both you and your lover are young enough to be able to afford to wait for a few years, and this would be much preferable to going counter to your parent’s wishes. I have been going with a young man for two years, but there is another young man I used to go with five years ago, and he has asked me to go with him, and also wants to marry me. I am twenty- one years old. Do you think I had better keep to the one I am going with now? f like them both. Philadelphia, Pa. QURRIE S. You do not say that you have any deep affection for either of these men, so we would advise you to marry neither one of them, There is no reason why you cannot continue the acquaintance of both of them upon a friendly basis. Do not think of mar- _Tiage with any man unless you are sure that you love him. Matrimony is a very serious matter and true, constant affection is the only thing that will make married life a success. I am a young m4an of twenty-one years, and I have just received a letter from-a girl that I met at a party.. She made a date with me, and at the time we met she made another date, and talked as though wanted to keep steady company with me. Do you think she is in love with me or do you think she just wants somebody to go with? Chicago, Il. GEORGE R. It depends entirely upon the character of the young lady. If she was forward in making your acquaintance and the engagements you mention, it is possible that she desired an escort and thought you would prove a desirable one. If the acquaint- ance was continued at your own request, we see no reason to doubt her sincerity. There is no reason, - George, for supposing that a young lady is ‘‘in love”’ with you because she sees you frequently and writes you an occasional letter. Possibly, she desires only a good friend; and, if this is the case, we trust that you will prove one to her. Iam nineteen years old and am at present corre- sponding with a young man in New York, but of late he not been so peewee! in writing; in fact, I have not heard from him in over a week. Before be true to him, and I have MY QUEEN. 27 not gone with any other young man since, All my friends advise me to give him up, but I just hate to. Orange, N. J GENEVIEVE M. D. Perhaps there is some good reason why you have not heard from your correspondent. He may be away or engrossed with business cares, so that he cannot write you as frequently as before. 1f you are positive that it is due to neglect and that he is becoming tired of the correspondence, there is no reason why you should not accept the attentions and companionship of other men. ® I am a young girl of sixteen years and have been going with a young man for a year, but through the enmity of a girl friend we had a falling out, and he turned his attention to another .girl. Of late he has returned to me, and 1 am aware that he thinks as much of me as the latter. Please advise me if you would encourage him again, as I think a great deal of him. Lizzin D. C—, N. J. If you really care for the young man and are con- vinced that his regard for you is sincere, we see no reason why you should not enjoy his society. We do not advise you to go out of your way to encour- age him, as it is possible that you may have an- other quarrel and, if you do, it would not be pleas- ant for you to remember that you took any especial pains to attract him. Continue your acquaintance upon a perfectly friendly basis, for the present, and do not allow the question of affection to enter into it. I am writing to you for advice on a very serious matter. I am sixteen years old and am not allowed to keep company with anybody. Do you think [ would be doing wrong to do this without m mother knowing it? se Soy” K—., Ill We would certainly advise you not to “keep com. pany”’ with any one without your mother’s knowl- edge or against her wishes. You are very young to be spending much time thinking about men and would do far better if you confined your attention to your studies for a few years and endeavored to fit yourself for a useful, helpful womanhood. There will be plenty of men in the world five years from now, and you will be much better fitted to enjoy their society then than you are now. I am eighteen years old and am very fond of the boys, and there are a good many of them after me. One young man, a blonde, has asked me to marry him; but I don’t love him. In fact, I don’t love any of them. Do you think I ought to go with young men or not? i Pose. 5, C—, N. J. We see‘no reason why you should not enjoy the society of young men in moderation. It is not weil for any girl of your age to spend too much of her time thinking about men, but the society of the opposite sex will be found pleasant and enjoyable if you use good judgment in the choice of your com- panions. Do not marry any man unless you love him. Real, true love is the only basis upon which to enter into married life with safety. A marriage based upon any other motive is apt to prove un- happy. I am much interested in the Marion Marlowe series, and want to ask if you think neighbors have any cause to interfere because a husband agrees to obey his wife? My wife is several years older than Iam, and when we were married I promised her on my knees to obey her, and she helps me every way possible to keep my pledge. She has cured me of several bad habits. Although it seemed difficult at first to mind, I now believe it is a £00d idea to ohey a good woman. BERT W. T.- —., Mass. You must be a pretty poor specimen of a man to find it necessary to put yourself under the disci- pline of your wife. Counsel which a woman gives her husband is one thing, ana perfectly praise- worthy; but tacit obedience, such as you say you CoMmichoooks.G©