From Farm to Fortune, or, Only a Farmer's Daughter — page 34: what you’re looking at

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, , * a (fo: ha ial atid MY QUEEN. cultivate in this one man’s heart an affection for you? There are lots of worthy men in the world, and you will discover them some day. The best advice we can give you is to cultivate the society of every man you know and try and discover his good points. Then you will not find the society of one man soindispensable to your happiness, Preserve your own self-respect and you will not go far wrong. Don’t try to make people think something of you when they evidently do not wish to do so. _ “My mother scolds me harshiy for allowing young men to kiss me and place their arms about my waist. Weare spending the summer at the seashore and all the boys and girls carry on more orless. Is mother right oris she only old-fash- __ ioned and prudish, as the other girls say?” We think this is one of the saddest letters we . ever read. Any girl ought to know that her mother’s actions are for her good, and that her mother has her child’s interest at heart even more than her husband’s. We are sorry that you thought it necessary to ask our advice, but since you have you shall have it. Laxity in manners is never excusable because one is at the seashore or mountains any more than if one was on Broadway. You would not let one of the boys kiss and embrace you on the cor- ner of Broadway and T'wenty-third street, would you? Well, you want to preserve your dignity just the same at the seashore. The boys may make fun of you for a day or two, but they will respect you a good deal more than they do the girls that forget to respect themselves. This is not being prudish or old-fashioned—it is simply being womanly. “Do you think that a girl can be nappy if she marries a poor man? J am engaged to the nicest fellow in the world, only he’s poor, ever so much poorer than my father. I love him dearly and would marry him to-morrow if I was sure that I would not miss my home comforts. Sometimes they don’t seem to amount to anything, and I feel as if I would be perfectly satisfied, and then again they seem so necessary to my life. Please advise me.”’ The mere possession of money never made any one happy. Some of our happiest days are when we have least of this world’s goods. (‘Kind hearts are more than coronets,’? dear. If your fiance really loves you and you really love him the Joss of a few unnecessary comforts will not be noticed. There is no sweeter pleasure in this world than the pleasures of giving and of going without for the sake of a loved one. If you love your future husband enough to feel pleastire at the giving up of some of your creature comforts you may safely take the step. On the contrary, if you feel that you relinqush them unwillingly and feel that you are going to miss them in spite of the presence of your husband, then you want to be cautious and sure of your ground before you decide to marry atall. A girl who values her own comfort more Fd = ae bi . . a - — 1 than anything else is not a promising subject for the trials and responsibilities which invariably accompany matrimony. Unselfishness is the very first quality necessary for those who propose to enter wedded life, ‘““T write to ask if it is true that men only desire to marry rich girls? Is there no chance for a poor girl who is loving and true-hearted to win a good, true husband even though she is poor and de- pendent upon her own exertions?’’ Good men are looking for loving and true- hearted girls the world over just the same as they have always been. Our correspondent need not fear that there is no chance for her in the field of matrimony. A loyal, noble young man does not seek for a girl to pay the bills, heis both willing and glad to pay them himself, if only he ean find in hera trusting, faithful companion— one who can bring joy into his busy life with her kisses and her smiles. In fact, we believe that most right-minded young men prefer the honor of supplying the funds for the family. ‘‘About three months ago I inserted an adver- tisement in one of the matrimonial papers and’ received a number of replies. Some of them seemed to be from real nice fellows, and I have kept up a correspondence with them. One of them now wants me to go to New York and meet him forluncheon. It seems to me that it would bea jolly lark, but one of my girl friends says I had better not go. Do you think I would run any risk? FLORENCE C. R.”’ Your friend is perfectly right and much wiser than you are. No girl should correspond with men to whom she has not been properly intro- duced, and not even then unless her parents know of the correspondence and approve of it. Your anticipated ‘jolly lark’? would likely turn out to be a most disagreeable episode. The men that answer advertisements in papers of this na- ture are in practically every case scoundrels of the very worst type. They seek the acquaintance of young girls simply for vicious purposes, and any young woman who desires to preserve her self-respect will avoid them as she would the plague. We advise you to break off this corre- spondence at once, and if you fortunately havea “big brother’? you had better tell him the whole affair and let him write this would-be ‘“masher” the sort of letter he richly deserves. — ‘IT spent the summer at Asbury Park with an aunt and a couple of girl cousins. Every dav we met two young men on the bathing beach and I took quite a fancy to one of them. Now that I am back home he is very anxious to call on me How can I arrange to have him do so? J do not want to tell my parents how I met him. as thev are both very ‘straitlaced.’ ISABEL,” : Acquaintances made at summer resorts some- times prov rery desir : 3 prove to be very desirable, but are quite as likely to turn out the opposite. If the young man’s intentions and character are honorable. he will no doubt be able to find a way to become COMIGIOOKSEGOn